I'm a little annoyed

[sparkfrost]

Fandom, you're annoying me right now.

Supernatural- did you HAVE to kill off yet another black man? At first I got really excited that you had a person of color playing a major role, but the moment he called humans mud-monkeys I shook my head and stopped caring about the character. I just... I love the show, I really do. But do you think they could try to be less racist and less misogynist? Because that would be really awesome. I'm also a little annoyed that most people on the boards at TWoP are like, FINALLY! Uriel is dead! Hooray! I know that he 'had to die' for the episode, but his story could have been so interesting! What would make a specialist like Uriel, an angel in God's army for thousands of years, decide to turn to Lucifer? Instead we got a short speech about humanity sucking, then a quick fistfight, then BAM! Stabbed through the throat. I'm just... annoyed.

Bandom- QUIT HATING ON THE WOMEN! Goddamn, but I'm getting sick of this. Pete Wentz is my current favorite for calling out all the haters and subtle sexism that goes on, for serious. I've said this before and I'll say it again- It is perfectly fine to dislike a band's music. I don't like Tyga, so I don't listen to him. But I don't go around talking shit about him! If you dislike Hey Monday, don't listen to them! But quit saying that they're only popular because Cassadee is pretty! Or, on the other hand, say you love the band but hate Cassadee. That is bullshit. Cassadee is the lead singer, she is the frontwoman, they wouldn't be Hey Monday without her. So lay off!

I just don't get it. Is it jealousy? I'm jealous of their success, I'll admit it. I would do all sorts of things for RiP to get big. But I also admire them for doing it! All this hatred makes me think of Mean Girls- these little haters are tearing people down to try and make themselves feel better. But it doesn't work, and I wish they'd just stop.

Gah! Off to go listen to Hey Monday and do my homework. New friends, sorry for the ranty intro. Although I did warn you...

Comments

[berserkide.livejournal.com]

No, no, that's not how you cam across at all. Just, a lot of people have lately, and in discussions like this I frequently get the feeling that people are telling me "she's a girl, she's in a male dominated field, you HAVE to like her or you're a sexist pig", and that makes me uncomfortable.

I'm reaching the point where (and I say this fully aware that this might change by next week) I'm pretty tired of the talk of sexism in music in particular. It might make me a bad feminist or whatever, but the thing about sexism is that it's always been there, it's always gonna be there, and in my experience raising only a verbal fuss (and I'm not saying this is what you're doing) about it only sets us further back, if you will.

I had an awesome point about how in the music scene/business, a lot is based on personal, individual respect, but I forgot where exactly I was going with it.

But regardless. I have thinky disjointed thoughts.

[sparkfrost.livejournal.com]

"she's a girl, she's in a male dominated field, you HAVE to like her or you're a sexist pig"

I hate that line of argument. I think it is just as damaging as people disliking her because she's a girl. Everyone has a right to their own opinions, and saying that you cannot dislike someone because they are in a minority position is bullshit.

I've been ranting about Hey Monday in particular because to me, they seem like the band most attacked for having a female lead singer. Few people who dislike them seem able to leave it at "I don't like their sound" or even, "I heard things about/met Cassadee and I don't like her because [insert reason here]".

I don't think it makes you a bad feminist for becoming tired of an old discussion. It has always been there, it (most likely) will always be there, its natural to get fed up with the same old argument. Even though I joke about inviting wank, I really just want to open people's eyes, maybe get them to think twice about something that tends to lurk in the background.

If you remember your awesome point, I'd love to hear it. I really did appreciate your answers to the questions I sent, and even though they didn't make it into the paper they definitely gave me food for thought.

I love your thinky thoughts and I love you!

[sparkfrost.livejournal.com]

Edit! Rather, you can dislike someone for reasons other than them being in a minority position. Saying that this person is inviolate because they are a minority is just as damaging as disliking them because they are a minority.

In my opinion.