sparkfrost: (Fandom Compass)
I imagine those of you in the SPN fandom, or those who read Fandom Wank have already heard about the epic J2 racefail involving the fic set in post-quake Haiti. If you haven't, or if you'd like to learn more about it, there is an excellent wrap-up post here, complete with links to not only the original fic but to other essays and responses to the issue.

I'm white. I've made no secret about that, I'm a WASP who was born and raised outside of DC. Even living in such a "blue" area, I've struggled with my own subconscious racial issues. I work really hard to NOT look at everything from my priveleged point of view, and to also not make it an "exploring the other" exercise. I try my best to think of and treat other people as just that- people. And when issues like RaceFail come up, I look really hard at my own beliefs and actions, and if I find myself acting or thinking in a questionable manner, I work really hard to correct it! But most of all- if someone calls me on an action or post that is fucked up- I DON'T THROW A FUCKING HISSY FIT! I don't claim that I can't possibly be racist because [insert x reason here], and I don't say I'm so fucking hurt that someone called me racist!

That is what I find most despicable about the J2 Racefail and the one last year- if you do something fucked up, and people call you on it, FUCKING DEAL WITH IT LIKE A GROWNUP! Apologize, retract your statement (or fic, or fanart, or whatever), and WORK ON YOUR ISSUES!

Fuck, man. Fandom, as awesome as it can be (see [livejournal.com profile] help_haiti), can be epically fucked up.

Lol, wank!

Dec. 16th, 2009 01:51 pm
sparkfrost: (Fandom Compass)
So, if you read FandomWank, you may have heard of the not-so-triumphant return of Victoria Bitter, aka [livejournal.com profile] thanfiction, to fandom. Mass friends-cuts! Cons! Evil twins! No, really! Anyhow, there are amazing write-ups on FandomWank, and the comment threads are worth working through.

But anyway! Here's why I'm posting! I had read Andy's "epic" fanfiction, Dumbledore's Army and the Year of Darkness and liked it well enough. Friended Andy, got along with him fine, and when he mentioned he would be in DC for Halloween we agreed to meet up. He came to the 930 Club with me for their Halloween show. I bought his ticket, he bought me a few drinks, and after the show we went over to my best friend Kyle's house. Andy got trashed. Like, really wasted, he puked on himself and the couch. So we cleaned him up, got him water, and put him to bed.

Kyle and I spent the rest of the evening talking, and Kyle expressed doubts about Andy being who he said he was, citing the pretty bad Irish accent as well as wondering if Andy had really been born male. I defended Andy, saying that I didn't want to talk behind the back of a friend, and we agreed to disagree and both crashed out.

When we woke up the next morning he had already left to get back to Richmond, but had left a thank you/apology note and a $20 bill for the alcohol and ticket. I didn't think much of the night before (other than that Andy was a lightweight), just continued to talk to him on LJ and read his stories. Until he posted a really misogynistic rant about how women shouldn't dress as sluts because women are "pure" and "heavenly" and some bullshit like that. Well, I posted a rather pissed off comment in return, but never got a response. I was, however, contacted by someone who had previously been friends with Andy and they basically warned me off him. I didn't feel like dealing with wank, so I never defriended, just stopped commenting on any posts and for the most part stopped reading as well. I had pretty much forgotten about Andy, when all this happened.

So why am I posting now? Well, people have been posting pictures of Victoria Bitter, Amy Player, Jordan Wood, and Andy Blake, and I figured I might as well contribute one as well. Now, this was Halloween and Andy was dressed as Bill Weasley, so there are "scars" all over his face. But its still a clear face shot, and the resemblance to VB is striking. Please forgive my incredibly stoned face, I was attempting "emo" and failed miserably.


sparkfrost: (Fandom Compass)
Panic's new demo makes my heart stupidly happy. If you haven't heard it, check it out at their website. Pete Wentz said that the new album would be a natural progression from A Fever You Can't Sweat Out, and the new song certainly sounds like it.

Depending on who you are, this could be a good or bad thing. Palmer, for example, really likes Pretty.Odd., and had hoped that they would continue in their Beatles-inspired 60's rock. I think a lot of people may feel that way. People who kind of grew up with Panic's music, and they may feel that they've grown out of the emo dance-pop. Me, I'm excited. I loved Pretty.Odd>., don't get me wrong, but Fever is what got me into Panic, was my summer soundtrack, and really helped me get through a lot of shit that was going on in my life. Listening to Brendon sing about how 'only his head knows his heart is lying' is like a breath of fresh air, and really fills me with hope. I am really excited to see what else he and Spencer come up with, and cannot wait to hear the new album.

For those who loved Pretty.Odd., fear not! It seems as if Ryan and Jon's new album will be a natural progression off of that. Obviously no one can say for sure, but they were definitely the driving forces behind a lot of the last album, and it makes sense that they would continue to experiment with that sound. So, have hope!

Now, onto the scandal. Ryan is an idiot, but I can't exactly judge him. )

If you don't want to be friends with me after reading that, I get it. (I seem to be saying that a lot lately.) But, as before, I'd prefer it if you'd talk to me in the comments or PM me.

Much love to all!
sparkfrost: (Attack Woman)
I was going to make an angry post about [livejournal.com profile] therightfangirl and how they come off as a bunch of deluded, whiny, privileged brats, but I decided that I just don't care enough.

Actually, that's a lie. I do care enough, and here is why: the members of that community give conservatives a bad name. Comparing Michelle Obama to Sasquatch is not clever. Blaming anyone but Palin on her decision to quit is not "defending your icon" it is disenfranchising a woman who made a (arguably poor and ill-advised) choice to step down from her political position. Insulting Obama's children and then turning around and bashing "the liberal media" for attacking Palin's family is hypocritical. Also showing a double-standard is attacking someone who reasonably and thoughtfully points out different interpretations of Bible-verses based on different translations of Aramaic and Hebrew, but insisting that Umbridge in Harry Potter is a liberal and anyone who disagrees with you is a fucking moron or a stupid liberal idiot. I can and will go on about their despicable behavior:

-Calling yourself a Christian but rejoicing that Dr. Tiller will "rot in hell"
-Being pissy that his murderer was called a religious zealot, then turning around and condemning the entirety of the Islamic religion and culture as murderous, Western-hating infidels
-Rejoicing that Proposition 8 passed and getting pissed off when people call you a bigot
-Saying that your religion trumps people's rights to "Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness"
-Defending Sanford and saying that his infidelity should have remained a personal matter while insisting that Clinton should have been thrown out of office
-Blaming the "liberal media" for harping on Adam Lambert's sexuality when Bill O'Rielly was the first to bring it up

I could go on, but since those bullet points are just from posts through the end of May, the entire list would take up too many journal entries.

I went to check out that community yesterday because of a secret on [livejournal.com profile] fandomsecrets that mentioned it. I was curious, I wanted to see what a "fan community for conservative fangirls" was like. I personally want my fandom space to be friendly, but also full of discussion and hopefully thought provoking as well. That is why I checked out the comm in the first place, I wanted to see how conservative fangirls acted in their own safe space. What I found was a cesspool of hate and misinformation* with one in every 40 entries being remotely fandom-related. Anyone who spoke from a fiscally (not socially) conservative perspective or even someone willing to listen to the other side was either immediately shot down or accused of being a troll. It was bullshit. I wish I had never clicked on the link. It is an angry community full of hatred, bigotry and bile.

I almost didn't write this post because I was worried about the reactions from conservatives on my friends list. The several that I know are conservative are reasonable, well-spoken, and intelligent people, and I respect their opinions while disagreeing with them. I think that is what made me so angry about that community- I'm used to civil discourse with people that hold different opinions from me, and I'm also used to seeing them write about their opinions in well-researched posts. There was none of that reason in the community, and it scares and angers me that people can be so convinced that they are right without putting any effort into researching what they believe in.

I am well aware that some of you may choose to de-friend me over this post. I'd rather you talked to me in the comments or by PM, but I won't be angry if you choose not to.


*One post accused liberals of "ratting out" Sanford, blamed everyone from the liberal media to the South Carolina Democrats, and had about 30 comments agreeing with everything in the post. When one commenter pointed out that the people who had brought Sanford's affair to light were the Republican Lt. Governor and the Republican State's Attorney General, both political rivals, and gave a brief history of Sanford's battle with his own party the OP responded with "Oh, wow, this would have been good to know before I posted, LOL!". It is called research, you ignorant bitch, try it out sometime!
sparkfrost: (Dear Diary)
So, occasionally on Fandom!Secrets there will be a secret saying that the OP wants to "hit" some character, but OH NOES! They're total jerks and players and misogynists and how COULD SHE want to hit that, totally FEMINISM FAIL!

Really? Really, OP? Just because you find someone hot you fail as a feminist? Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't feminism the idea that women are equal to men and therefore deserve equal treatment? So, you like a character because he's hot and you want to do him. That character sleeps with women because they're hot and he wants to do them. Seems pretty equal to me!

Honestly, that sort of attitude pisses me off, because it seems more like a failure of feminism than wanting to sleep with an asshole. Guys admit attraction to women they find despicable all the time. I mean, there is a reason that the femme fatale is such a popular literary character, so why do women get all upset when they find themselves attracted to a villain? That seems like more of a double standard to me- guys are allowed to find evil people hot and want to sleep with them, but then again, guys are dogs, right? Whereas us women are sugar and spice and everything nice and we always have to be attracted to the clean-shaven, polo shirt wearing good guy, otherwise its... feminism fail? Now I've just confused myself. Explain how that works exactly? Oh, wait, you can't, because it doesn't make sense.

So lets go over this again. It is OK to be attracted to assholes. Really! James Kirk is a womanizing son of a bitch, but hot damn is he hot. Brendon Urie? Probably a dick! But I'd still hit it. (Well, I would if he weren't like, two feet shorter than me.) Hugh Grant cheated on Elizabeth Hurley with a transsexual prostitute, yet he still stars in romantic comedies and gets girls' panties wet. (If my language offends you, feel free to clutch those pearls) But do you see what I mean? Just because someone is a dick doesn't mean that you're a failure of a feminist for being attracted to him. It means that they are good looking, or charismatic, or say "hello" in a way that makes you want to strip to your skivvies and have a heavy petting session on your couch. Whatever floats your boat!

But basically, stop saying that you fail as a feminist over something as silly and inconsequential as physical attraction. Its not a political statement, its hormones for fucks sake. Chill!
sparkfrost: (Attack Woman)
If you hadn't heard already, according to her blog, Keltie broke up with Ryan yesterday morning. She posted another update later that evening. The first post has, at last count, 170 comments. The second post has 80. While many of these are simple messages of sympathy and encouragement, there are a few that do either one of two things: either the commenter has overly empathized with Keltie and believes that only they understand each other's pain, or someone is bitching Keltie out for posting about the breakup on her blog.

First group: take a chill pill. Yeah, being cheated on sucks, but you are not a special and unique snowflake for having it happen to you. Just because something similar happened to both you and Keltie does not mean that she will be your new BFF. She has her own friends and family, and while she is taking comfort in the messages of support, she is not going to single you out just because you wrote 5 long paragraphs and said you would "send her light". Yeesh.

Second group: Fuck off. It is her blog. It is her relationship, it is her life. You may not like that she posted information online, but let me reiterate: it is her blog! She can post whatever the hell she wants there! No, bitching her out "on Ryan's behalf" does not make it better. Like it or not he is a public figure, and when public figures break up with their significant others details get leaked. You can be made uncomfortable by it, sure, but there is a simple solution to that problem: Don't read it! Don't read her blog posts, don't follow her on Twitter, don't find her everywhere she is online and then get pissed off when you read personal stuff! She is a woman who has just had her heart broken, let her fucking vent and get what comfort she can from those who understand and sympathize.

Another thing? Trashing another girl doesn't make guys like you. Shocker! I know. But its true! So all you little fans who hate every single girl the boys interact with? Stop it. Hating them will get you nowhere. It will get you pitying condescending looks from me, but thats about it. Because here's the secret: guys like girls (and girls like girls, if thats what you're into) who are wholly their own person. Who are self-actualized, have their own goals and ambitions and don't let their lives revolve around whoever they are or want to be sleeping with. Remember how all those YM and Seventeen interview with guys have the guys saying confidence is sexy? That's because it is!

One thing that can turn me off anyone, no matter how good looking they are, is constant bitter trash-talking. There is a difference between snark and jealous ranting, and if you are constantly doing the second then I don't want to be around you. For example: The Fug Girls are snarky. They mock clothing, hairstyles, career paths- but they do it humorously, with more than a grain of self-deprecating humor thrown in. [livejournal.com profile] fbr_secrets? You're doing it wrong. The amount of hate directed towards Victoria, Cassadee, Greta, Ashlee, Keltie, etc is staggering. And frankly, disgusting. Why would I want to talk to someone who can't think of anything to say but nasty shit about other people? That shows me that you don't care enough about yourself for me to invest any of my time or energy into you. In short, no matter how pretty your outside is, your inside is fug and it drives people away.

So, lets go over this one last time, shall we? 1)Don't overidentify with celebrities you do not know. 2)Tearing apart other people makes you look bad.

Got it? Awesome.
sparkfrost: (Kicking Ass!)
Look- people are NOT nice on the internet! This is obviously not everyone ever, but if you are a member of a ranting community and you post a bitchy rant you should maybe expect people to be not so nice in return, ok?

Basically- a member posted a rant about customers that several of thought was not as sucky as the OP though. But as soon as we expressed this point of view (politely!) the OP started jumping down our throats. After a bit of back and forth I got tired of arguing and stopped responding. I didn't think much more of it until today, when the new mod decided to bitch me out for daring to disagree. Her comment, and I quote:

[livejournal.com profile] buggrit_1979: This community is called [livejournal.com profile] customerssuck. And you know something? Many people DO think customers that hang out after close are dicks. I know I do. It's a topic that has been discussed many times in this community, and I'm not getting why this particular post became a target for deep dickery, but drop it.

I said: I thought we were also supposed to be professionals who do our jobs. I can see why [livejournal.com profile] everanddespair was annoyed, I just didn't see the suck.

And speaking of dropping it, I last commented two days ago. You're the one who picked it back up.


She comes back with: I didn't see anyplace in the post where she didn't do her job. Being professional does not mean NOT complaining later, out of the customer's hearing, about something that upsets one.

And I only found all this shit out today, or I'd surely have said something sooner.


So, let me get this straight- your community rules say that people are allowed to disagree as long as they do it politely, but as soon as I do that I get bitched at? Throughout the initial exchange [livejournal.com profile] everanddespair was ridiculously aggressive with me, yet she gets defended and I get bitched at? Whatever.

The icing on the cake is the mod post that [livejournal.com profile] buggrit_1979 made this afternoon, basically telling everyone who had disagreed on that post to STFU, GTFO and DIAF. That's some great Mod work there, Lou.

Well, about 15 people, including me, have already left the community and more are doing so as I refresh and check. Bug has since edited the post to a more 'snuggletimez' response, but people seem to be onto her bullshit.

Basically, neener neener, enjoy your sucky poorly run community!
sparkfrost: (Snarky)
For those of you who were upset about Rick Warren being chosen to deliver the inauguration invocation, Dan Savage held a contest. A contest similar to the one he held back in 2004, when Rick Santorum was revealed to be a disgusting, prejudiced homophobe; Dan Savage held a contest to determine a new meaning for "saddlebacking", i.e. The Saddleback Church that Rick Warren is minister of. You may have heard the new definition for santorum, that actually came out as the number one result on Google search, over the senator's own homepage: the frothy mix of lube and fecal matter that is the occasional byproduct of anal sex. Disgusting, right? A gross definition for a morally reprehensible man, right on. Well, the nominations were posted, the votes were counted, and ladies and gentlemen, we have a new definition for saddlebacking:

Saddlebacking: sad•dle•back•ing \ˈsa-dəl-ˈba-kiŋ\ vb [fr. Saddleback Church] (2009): the phenomenon of Christian teens engaging in unprotected anal sex in order to preserve their virginities

After attending the Purity Ball, Heather and Bill saddlebacked all night because she’s saving herself for marriage. Unfortunately her parents found out because they got santorum all over the sheets.

Be sure to check out the site! Be sure to link to it! Be sure to Googlebomb the shit out of it! Let's make sure that Rick Warren is forever associated with stupid teenagers assfucking due to ground-in sexual shame. Rock on!

And that was my daily dose of shit-stirring. Good times!
sparkfrost: (Attack Woman)
If you don't like an episode or two, sure, that happens to all shows. Something bugs you, there are too many anvils, they include a character you don't like much- whatever. Sometimes shit like that happens.

But when you bitch about every episode in the current season? I'm tempted to tell you to STFU and GTFO of the fandom. If it upsets you this deeply, for every episode, what enjoyment are you getting out of it? Seriously! All you do is bitch bitch bitch, go misogynistic, bitch about the writing, bitch about Sam, moan about Dean, hate on the mytharc, etc etc. You don't sound happy, so WHY DO YOU STAY?! Is it because you are obsessed with writing porn for it? Is it Castiel love? Or do you just want to continue to spew vitriol over every single female character that appears on the show? I mean, not to assume... but that's how it looks to me!

I have had one too many glasses of wine to continue this angry rant. Expect a slightly hungover, therefore angrier, rant tomorrow.

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